I’m working on a series of videos with ‘bite sized’ tips. All of the videos will cover topics related to divorce. I wanted to share one of them here because it’s a very important topic. Telling your kids…making that dreaded announcement. You can guess that we’re not going to say “Honey, your Dad and I have decided to concsiously uncouple.” No. Not happening.
In this video I explain 5 common mistakes parents make when telling their children the ultimate in bad news. What NOT to do when you drop that bomb. Avoid making any of these 5 mistakes…
If you found this video helpful, please share and like (on youtube). 🙂
Remember to expect some hiccups and imperfection. These kind of conversations rarely go as planned. Expect the unexpected and don’t be hard on yourself. All you can do is your best.
Watch for new videos to come, with ‘bite size’ tips. Join in this conversation. What would you add to these 5 things?
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Beverly Diehl
May 6, 2014 at 3:35 pmNice video, great tips, and you come across super-approachable and yet earnest.
lisa
May 6, 2014 at 4:02 pmThank you, Beverly! Thanks for your feedback 🙂
dan
April 15, 2014 at 4:47 amA divorce is a very critical moment in life…so nice you give useful tips…
lisa
April 15, 2014 at 9:10 amDefinitely! TKS, Dan
Jodi Aman
April 7, 2014 at 10:24 amThere is almost no good way to tell someone this devastating news. But it must be done. I love that you give people plan. When they are in panic hearing this news, children need to ask questions. I always have parents encourage these questions! They need reassurance! I also love that you say to say it is mutual. This is SO hard for people but make it easier on the kids! Parents are often going through their own emotions take care of this! So you can be there for them!
lisa
April 7, 2014 at 10:48 amExactly right, Jodi! That mental prep can make a difference in making it better for the children. It’s never easy and always devastating so all we can do is our best to mitigate the damage. Thanks for your valuable input 🙂
Harleena Singh
April 6, 2014 at 10:20 amHi Lisa,
You are SO right – never convey things like a bomb dropped over them when you disclose things to your kids. They have a tender heart and it would just break their hearts to see their parents part ways, two people they’ve always seen together.
That was a lovely video, and good to see you too! Yes, talking to the children together works best so that they know it’s happening with consent and no hard feelings, if that be the case. I have friends who still meet even though they are divorced, and do so very happily with the kids – it almost seems like they are still a family. I guess it depends from family to family.
Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂
lisa
April 6, 2014 at 10:31 amTKS Harleena! Yes, children have ‘tender hearts’, very nicely put. I love hearing about couples like your friends, who can still be together with the kids post divorce. I admire that so much! Thanks for stopping by Harleena.
Chrys Fey
April 5, 2014 at 9:30 amI should pass this onto my best friend. She’s going to be getting a divorce and she has a 3 1/2 year old son.
lisa
April 5, 2014 at 10:08 amHi Chrys, that would be great! I hope it helps her. I should also mention the book “i and the great divide” . It’s a book written for young children to help them understand divorce. I reviewed it here she can buy the book by going to their site. TKS, Chrys!
Chrys Fey
April 5, 2014 at 10:18 amThank you, Lisa! I’ll definitely tell her about that book. It’ll surely come in handy.
My Inner Chick
April 5, 2014 at 6:55 amSuperb. HONEST video. I shall pass on….
You are adorable & I look forward to more videos. xx
lisa
April 5, 2014 at 8:57 amThanks, Kim! And thank you for sharing it. I hope it helps ppl. xo