Speaking of perfection…do you fear your Christmas won’t be up to snuff? Your gifts will be all ‘wrong’, your meal burnt? Well, join the club.
Even though I’m almost finished my shopping, I still wonder if I bought enough and if everyone will be satisfied. Has my love been adequately expressed through carefully wrapped gifts? Nevertheless I’ve given much thought to who’s been naughty and who’s been nice!
“The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
LOSS-we all experience it, especially during divorce. The fact is we lose stuff everyday; a thought, our keys, our phone, a memory, our coins, a contest, a challenge, a call and the biggest one of all—TIME.
In tackling this subject I really wanted to express the idea that loss is something we all deal with whether they’re losses that leave a crevice in our hearts or small ones, that niggle on the left side of our brain.
Loss is just an unfortunate part of life…
I’ve been known to say “It’s the moments that count.” I said it in my book, chapter 1 to be precise. Just as in a marriage, it is true during the divorce process as well. We tend to put a great deal of emphasis on the big moments of life like weddings, divorce, giving birth, a long awaited promotion, or finally taking that exotic vacation. All of these big moments are exciting and they give us things to strive for and look forward to however, they are few and far between in life. If we’re only getting excited about these things then what are we doing in the in-between times?
Book Review…i and the Great Divide by Fiona McGlynn
New author Fiona McGlynn has created, with illustrator Robin Urquhart a book that explains divorce for children. i And the Great Divide is a simple and visually appealing book designed to help the younger child understand divorce in their family. The most important message in the book? It’s not your fault…ever. Mom and Dad still love you.
From the archives, one of my favorites;
I can’t think of a better way to spend a rainy day then to pen a love letter. During divorce we stop believing in love, so bring back that feeling by writing a love letter to anyone of your choice, maybe someone you’ve always admired from afar. 
Some say a love letter to yourself
Well, I scrolled through all kinds of inspirational quotes today and couldn’t seem to find one that spoke to us. Then I saw this bird cage with a quote that seemed appropriate. It’s all about freedom…believing in you…dreaming big dreams…knowing today isn’t the end of your story, only the beginning…
Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way. Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt. To reiterate this quote…
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you moms out there! Special wishes to the single moms doing it all alone. Single moms are some of the strongest and most determined women in the world.
How do you define motherhood? I remember when I was young and expecting my first child, I was so excited. The anticipation of caring for a tiny human was almost overwhelming.
The bewildering changes in my body as the pregnancy progressed were nothing compared to the changes to come. But ignorance is bliss. I was sure if I had enough hooded towels for baby, everything would be fine. As my baby grew inside me week by week, I was filled with questions. Who would he or she look like? (Knowing the gender prior to birth was rare in the ‘olden days’) Would they be perfect in every way? What would they become? Sometimes I doubted my ability to be a mother.
photo credit JourneyEversPhotography
After divorce we feel defeated in love. We might stop believing in it altogether.
We may be spending what little energy we have left after the battle, providing and being there for our children. We’ve stopped believing in fairy tales but the time will come eventually when we look forward to new relationship(s).
Maybe we’re even looking for that perfect fit we call love. You know what I mean…that someone out there who holds the key to our heart, if only we knew where to find them!
Who holds the key to your heart?
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