One of the most challenging experiences for me during my divorce, was simply dealing with lawyers, attending meetings, discoveries, examinations and finally trial.

It can be intimidating to say the least. It’s one thing to sit with your own lawyer in their office but very different to sit across from your ex and his lawyer in a conference room. Add a court reporter, recording devices, piles of documents and know that you’re going to be grilled by a lawyer any moment, and you start to sweat.

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I’m very pleased to introduce to you Brad Micklin of The Micklin Law Group out of New Jersey, N.Y.  Brad generously agreed to answer my interview questions and you, dear readers will benefit from his family law wisdom.

If you’re in the middle of your divorce you probably feel like you’re chasing paper. You may have legal papers and bills spread out on your living room table.  You have important letters from your lawyer mixed up in your mail.  You haven’t opened the last envelope from your lawyer because you’re worried it’s a huge bill. These lawyers fees add up pretty quickly, while nothing seems to be getting done at all.  Sound familiar?

I get some pretty interesting questions coming in from readers and site visitors.  I thought why not share them on the blog once a month?  Everyone can benefit from a little extra information and I’m sure you will relate to selected questions.  Please note, I do not give legal advice nor do I disclose the person’s real name. So, welcome to Dear Lisa-Reader Question of the Month;

Erin Brockovich, client advocate

I guess it’s pick on lawyers day.  This is important, though and something I’ve experienced.  It made me wonder at the effects of lawyers PREACHING self help when they should be practicing law…

There’s a reason why Lawyers should stick to their expertise and provide legal advice and not personal advice.  I know a lawyer who attended a self help weekend retreat.  The premise of these retreats is for people to LET GO.  They tell their story and then claim they can let them go, like a helium filled balloon—floating away never to be seen again.

There are many false beliefs and stereotypes surrounding divorce.  Let’s separate fact from fiction or at least get a handle on some interesting divorce stats.  Take the quiz and find out if you are divorce savvy.

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Sometimes in life we simply haven’t got the resources for professional advice.  Sometimes we have to go it alone.  It can be scary but necessary.  Self representing in divorce really should be a last resort though.  Why?  Because Divorce can be a little like a wild river rafting ride and you wouldn’t navigate that alone.

Picture this: The water starts out flat… You have your paddle to contribute to the direction of the raft.  You have a leader who is a pro paddler keeping the raft on

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Are you on social media sites?  How has being involved in social media effected your divorce?  There was no social media when I was first separated.  When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family.  I had been

Are you ready for some Legal Speak?  One of the hardest lessons during divorce besides the emotional ones, are the legal ones.  If you’ve never had to hire a lawyer or deal with any legal issues it can be an eye opener.  I was a real newbie in the legal arena.  I had no clue the costs involved, the time involved nor any handle on the legal vocabulary.  Initially, finding