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I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case.  He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat.   Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce.  I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent.  So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who

It’s Wednesday again, already…time for our quote of the week.  Today’s quote isn’t from anyone famous, in fact it is anonymous (as far as I know).  But this just hit me right in the face this morning and I wanted to share it with you…

Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way.  Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt.  To reiterate this quote…

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There is no more stressful time than during a divorce, except for death.  Think about that for a minute.  Divorce is a grieving process of sorts.

If you are going through it right now, chances are you’ve let your self care routine slide.  There are other more important things to worry about than my hair…you hear yourself say…the children come first, you say…and they do however, if you keep putting yourself last you won’t get through this journey intact. 

Are you tired of being the Good Wife?  I’m sure you’ll agree that when we say our vows we have the best intentions.  Our twenty-something selves actually believe in the fairytale.  We are dressed in a fluffy white dress looking like the icing on a cupcake.  Yet, somehow this didn’t tip us off that it wasn’t realistic.  So, we became

Letting go is a big divorce phrase that get thrown around by friends, family, lawyers, mediators and random folks.  Everyone talks about it like it’s putting your shoes on to go out.  It should just

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After divorce we feel defeated in love.  We might stop believing in it altogether.

We may be spending what little energy we have left after the battle, providing and being there for our children.   We’ve stopped believing in fairy tales but the time will come eventually when we look forward to new relationship(s).

Maybe we’re even looking for that perfect fit we call love.  You know what I mean…that someone out there who holds the key to our heart, if only we knew where to find them!

Who holds the key to your heart?

From the archives; I’m re-posting this one because there is so much of this happening.  Many women and some men are dealing with an abusive ex.

Abuse during divorce is more common than we realize.  When we take the step to end our marriage, we extricate ourselves from the marital turmoil only to find ourselves the target of even more abusive behaviors.  The ex can become aggressive, verbally abusive, threatening, and sometimes

“She turned to the sunlight
And shook her yellow head,

whispered to her neighbor:
“Winter is dead.”

A.A. Milne, When We Were Very Young

Spring is the season of renewal, re-birth, new life. But when you’re going through your very own metamorphosis due to a divorce or other life changing experience, it’s not easy to feel optimistic.  But the blossoms, the new baseball diamonds, the warm sun on your face, the open toe sandals are just begging you to re-consider.  As you shed

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Are you on social media sites?  How has being involved in social media effected your divorce?  There was no social media when I was first separated.  When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family.  I had been