Going no-contact with a narcissist takes a great deal of determination, strength and a strong will to let go and move forward. My video on that subject is here.
There is no question that going no contact results in a better life for you but it does not necessarily erase all after effects of the narcissist. One of the things that is typical of narcissists is that they want to control you even after you have gone no contact. How can they do that if you have zero contact with them?
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It’s no secret that going no-contact from the narcissist in your life is the ultimate solution to taking your life back. Taking back your power that has been stolen by a narcissist isn’t easy but it is necessary to allow yourself to get on with your life and begin healing. But not everyone is in a position to go no contact.
Incidentally, in case you’re wondering if the Six Degrees is a play on words, it is. It’s based on the theory that we are all separated by only six people. So, by the time we get to a seventh (random) person, the chances are pretty good that we know someone in common. But I’ve digressed. Suffice to know that we can also choose to separate ourselves by degrees. Comes in handy when we have a narcissist in our life…
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As we all know, it’s difficult to initiate divorce. Imagine what it was like over one hundred years ago?
In order to get a divorce in Canada back in 1890’s to 1920’s, you had to apply to the Canada Gazette. This required the petitioner to disclose and publish for all to see, details of the demise of the marriage. Not until six months passed would the divorce be considered by Parliament (which would pass an “Act of Divorce”) nullifying the marriage.
Now, imagine being married to an abusive alcoholic with two small children in the late nineteenth century? That was exactly the position Priscilla, the original Escapee, found herself in. Her younger sister also lived in
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It’s no secret that the initial stages of divorce prove to be the most dangerous time in a woman’s life. Yet, we tend to remain positively naive. That makes sense of course, because we’re going through so much for the first time and we are unaware of the hidden or subtle vulnerabilities.
I wrote a post about how to tell the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist. I wrote it about six months ago and it has quickly topped my most popular blog ranking. Yes, there is a difference between an A**hole and a Narcissist and apparently many folks are interested in the subject. Next, I wrote about managing the narcissist in your life. I covered many tips and examples of how to handle the narcissist.
So, now let’s remind ourselves why we are foolish to continue relationships with Narcs and why sometimes even setting boundaries isn’t enough.
We hear about bullies on the playground. We worry our child will get bullied at school or even worse, we worry our child will be the bully. But bullying is something that goes on throughout our lives. It doesn’t end on the playground. We can experience it in the workplace, in a relationship, in a friendship and most likely in a divorce. Yes, there are such things as divorce bullies.
This post was updated on May 9, 2020.
Have you heard of Scapegoating syndrome? I hadn’t heard of it until I randomly came across this post in my facebook feed; Scapegoating: When You Get Stuck Trying to Outrun Someone Else’s Shadow by Glynis Sherwood. This article answered many questions for me. It solved a mystery that I just couldn’t figure out.
This post was updated October, 2023. There seems to be a EX Narcissist epidemic. The most common statements I hear over social media and blogging are “My Ex is a Narcissist.” OR “I was married to a Narcissist.”
Funny, you just don’t hear I was married to a complete A**hole anymore. Why? Because the A**hole has been replaced by the Narcissist it seems.
Narcissism is a personality disorder (NPD) which technically, can only be diagnosed by a psychiatrist. But with the power of the internet we can all identify signs and symptoms of Narcissism at our fingertips. We already know what an a**hole is, right? So, let’s find out what a Narc is…we’re curious. We begin reading and watching youtube videos on the subject and voila, we’re convinced our Ex really is a Narcissist and maybe he IS.
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If you’ve ever wondered whether you should end an abusive relationship, this is a must read!
Updated: October 2, 2023
Today is my first guest post here at The Great Escape…and I’m delighted to introduce to you all one inspirational young lady. She’s beautiful, sassy, rescues dogs, teaches elementary school and she’s someone you’d want for a best friend. Marianne Jordan is also the founder of My Own Diva (this company is no longer in business but Marianne’s story remains a must read) and well…she kicks ass. She’s a Southern Belle from Columbus, Georgia and her story will inspire you…
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I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case. He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat. Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce. I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent. So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who
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