It’s  natural to be concerned about our finances.

From the archives, Budgeting Steps and Tips:  The overwhelming issues surrounding your divorce include financial worries and a decrease in disposable income.  Suddenly one, or the same income is supporting two households.  Perhaps your support is

One of the most difficult times of the year for divorced and broken families is undoubtedly the Christmas Season.  Especially the first couple of years when it is a time for re-building and transitioning the new family unit. 

With Christmas around the corner we’re starting to make lists of who’s naughty and who’s nice.  It got me to thinking about some of the depressing gifts I received from well meaning friends and family following my divorce.  One that stands out is the

The days are getting shorter, the nights colder.  Although we can’t bring back the light of the summer and we can’t stop the rain from falling on our heads, there are always the simple, small ways to lift our spirits. 

Happy Halloween, everyone!  From the archives, A Bad Husband Costume for those who missed it the first time around…

I was having my Sunday night telephone conversation with my 17 year old son when I asked what he was going to dress as for Halloween, at school.  He told me he was going as a “Bad Husband”.  Oh, oh.  Was this a latent reaction to his father’s and my divorce?  So I asked him where he got the idea and he said on the Internet.  Pheeew, not my fault after all.  So I asked him what a bad husband looked like.  He said he has lipstick marks all over his collar and a pair of panties in his shirt pocket.  Ah, infidelity.  I chuckled at the ingenious costume idea.  Later though, I got to thinking about some other possible “Bad Husband” costumes.  I came up with a few ideas;

The Golf Addicted Husband
simply don golf attire and carry the clubs

(Okay, so he makes a little money while he’s playing…)

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The Mamma’s Boy Husband
wear a shirt that reads “I’m always right” on the front and on the back it reads “just ask my mom”.

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The Gambling Husband
Just carry around a hand of cards and some poker chips

“I lost again!”

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The Workaholic Husband
Just carry a briefcase, wear a suit and tie and look dishevelled.

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The Ego Husband
attach a cardboard bubble larger than your own head that reads EGO with a teeny tiny cardboard bubble beside it that says ID.
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Well, hopefully I got a few smiles.  The point is, we’re all imperfect.  Some of us are just better at it than others.

Enjoy your Halloween with your ghosts and ghouls, little and big! Wishing all of you single moms that extra burst of energy you will need to get your little ones organized and out on this busy night of celebration!

“Come on Mom!  Let’s go before all the candy is gone!”

Do you have an idea for a “Bad Husband” costume?  Please share with us!

photo credit someecards.com

People will ask you the weirdest, nosiest most obnoxious questions when you tell them your marriage is over.  As a woman who made the decision to end my marriage, the reaction of bewilderment by some people was beyond frustrating.  Here are the top dumbest divorce questions I got asked;

My daughter enjoying the ocean view

I just finished my morning coffee on the beach with the eagles, the loons and the less majestic sea gulls.  The cooler night air has brought with it a hint of fog on the water.  The first sign of the fall season.  It’s been a wonderful two weeks with my kids but now we have to say good bye, something I hate. 

There is always so much negative coverage, comments, judgments and professional nay-saying about divorce.  But what about the positive side of divorce or as I like to call it; the flip side of divorce. There are surprising benefits for both you, and the kids.

Rarely do we stop and examine what can go right during or after divorce. So instead of focusing on the difficulties, expense and strife of divorce, let’s take a few moments to examine the good, the pluses and the long term positive effects of divorce i.e., the BENEFITS.

I saw on Pinterest recently a quote that spoke right to me; “The problem with real life is there is no soundtrack playing in the background”  With the gamut of emotions during a divorce;  sadness, loneliness, anger, happiness, confusion, and everything in between, what better way to deal with it then some music therapy?

During the initial stages of separation and divorce, we find that we have lost our normal.  This is unsettling for us humans since we thrive on routine.  Our simple routine of daily tasks and some of our traditions are thrown out.  It’s called change or transition and it’s not an easy part of the process.  How can