From the archives…Feeling pissed about Cupid this year? It’s difficult after separation to feel inspired about a day dedicated to love when you feel your heart is broken. But in order to mend your heart, you have to start loving yourself.
In our marriages we often put ourselves last. We even learn to stop loving ourselves. How do we undo this? We begin by treating ourselves right. Turn Valentine’s Day into I HEART
It’s supposed to heal but a moment in time can break you. It’s the one thing we can’t buy. There is no price on it because it’s invaluable. Yet we squander it away as if we have forever. We remember the moments but not necessarily whole days. Let’s talk about the illusive structure of our lives: Time…
Tick. … Tock. It’s ticking away while we’re ‘busy making other plans’ (John Lennon).
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AS each new day unfolds, so does your story. Will you tell yours? How will you tell it? Will it be a comedic play, a romantic novel, a love song, a dramatic film or serious documentary. Maybe how isn’t as important as the simple fact
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An ideal divorce-is there such a thing? Or is it as likely as riding a unicorn off into the sunset. I would hazard a guess that it’s about as likely as ‘happily ever after’. Not impossible, but not guaranteed. First, what is an ideal divorce?
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One of the inevitable side effects of divorce is the ensuing gossip. Yes, little old you become fodder and material for idle gossip. Whether they’re neighbors, teachers, friends, acquaintances or sports parents your name seems to be on the tip of their tongue.
Speaking of perfection…do you fear your Christmas won’t be up to snuff? Your gifts will be all ‘wrong’, your meal burnt? Well, join the club.
Even though I’m almost finished my shopping, I still wonder if I bought enough and if everyone will be satisfied. Has my love been adequately expressed through carefully wrapped gifts? Nevertheless I’ve given much thought to who’s been naughty and who’s been nice!
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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown is definitely an antidote to therapy. In therapy we look inside to see where we went wrong…but in the book, Brene reminds us to look outside ourselves and see the big picture. It’s comforting when you’re going through difficult life changes, to know that it’s better to look at the big picture than focusing on your flaws.
“Justice is open to everyone in the same way as the Ritz Hotel”-Judge Sturgess
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Caveat: This post is intended to empower you. It is not legal advice.
It sounds crazy but some people find themselves in the Appellate Courts for their divorce. Picture this; two people cannot agree on their divorce settlement so they proceed to trial. A judge decides for them how their assets will be divided and how much alimony if any will be awarded and where the kids will be and when. But that’s not the end…
Inevitably, someone doesn’t ‘like’ the judgment. Usually it’s the person who pays the support or deems he got less in the decision. If he or she has the resources they take the judgment to Appeals in an attempt to change the decision…. Do they need grounds for the
“The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
LOSS-we all experience it, especially during divorce. The fact is we lose stuff everyday; a thought, our keys, our phone, a memory, our coins, a contest, a challenge, a call and the biggest one of all—TIME.
In tackling this subject I really wanted to express the idea that loss is something we all deal with whether they’re losses that leave a crevice in our hearts or small ones, that niggle on the left side of our brain.
Loss is just an unfortunate part of life…
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