I saw on Pinterest recently a quote that spoke right to me; “The problem with real life is there is no soundtrack playing in the background” With the gamut of emotions during a divorce; sadness, loneliness, anger, happiness, confusion, and everything in between, what better way to deal with it then some music therapy? There are so many ways to deal with these emotions, however what is often overlooked is the power of music during these turbulent times.
Get the stereo out, remember that thing that has giant speakers and an amplifier attached? Get your old CD’s out or records if you can go back that far. Start being your own DJ for the evening. Yes this will go well with a glass of wine.
Turntables are in fact seeing a rise in popularity again. My daughter’s latest hobby is collecting vinyl. Ya, they don’t call them records anymore. Even the latest bands are releasing their latest albums in vinyl as well as the CD version. I was surprised to know this too.
Okay so, you’ve got your glass of wine and you’ve got a mess of ‘albums’ in whatever format at your feet. Pick an old favorite. Turn up the volume, sing along. Keep it goin’ sister because before you know it you’ll be dancing.
Have you forgotten your old favorites?
There’s something inherently rewarding about opening a cd and reading the insert, or slipping the vinyl out of the cover and ‘putting’ your music on and pressing play. Mouse-clicking on your i-tunes just isn’t the same, am I right?
Either way, here are some song recommendations to match your emotion. Yes, there are lots of those during divorce so lets set them to music! Our soundtrack starts here…
Hit Me With Your Best Shot, Pat Benatar -I know this one has been overplayed but remember how powerful petite Pat was in the video and how original the idea of angry woman on revenge was at the time?
Rolling in the Deep, Adele -How could I leave this one out?
Not Ready To Make Nice, The Dixie Chicks- one of my favorites
Get out of This House, Shawn Colvin
Fun House, Pink
So What, Pink
Since You’ve Been Gone, Kelly Clarkson
Ramble On, Led Zeppelin
You Give Love a Bad Name, Bon Jovi
I Will Survive, Gloria Gayner
Crying, Roy Orbison
Hallelujah, Beck (classic Leonard Cohen)
Don’t Let the Sun Go Down On Me, Elton John
Taxi, Harry Chapin
Everybody Hurts, REM
The Winner Takes It All, Abba
Why?, Annie Lennox
Time, Chantal Kraviazuk
Like Knives, City and Colour
Just Somebody That I Used To Know, Gotye
All by Myself, Eric Carmen, classic self pity (think Bridget Jones)
Circle of Friends, Edie Brickell and the New Bohemians
Tonight I Wanna Cry, Keith Urban
Shilo, Neil Diamond
Eleanor Rigby, The Beatles
Cruel Summer, The Bangles
Such a Lonely One, Prairie Oyster
I’m Free, The Who
I Can See Clearly Now, Johnny Nash
Daydream Believer, the Monkees
Up On The Roof, The Drifters
It’s My Life, Gwen Stefani
Holiday, Madonna
Girl, Put Your Records On, Corrine Bailey Rae
I’m Walking on Sunshine, Katrina and the Waves
Ants Marching, Dave Matthews Band
Bird On A Wire, Jennifer Warrens (lyrics Leonard Cohen)
Brand New Day, Sting
For music pinspiration follow my music love board here
What is your old favorite? What’s your divorce theme song? What song makes you cry?
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Greg
August 9, 2012 at 7:56 pmFor me music can be almost a spiritual experience at times, one that helps me reflect on or transcend my present reality. I definitely associate different songs and artists with different seasons of my life. Since my own divorce, I’ve also noticed how songs that used to be hummable, innocuous little jingles have now taken on so much more significance to me. I guess it’s true what they say about depression and other intense emotions going hand-in-hand with great art. I now have a newfound appreciation for (some) country music, and for a lot of the angry and melancholy lyrics that used to go right over my head.
lisa
August 9, 2012 at 8:31 pmAbsolutely true, Greg! I’m curious which songs you refer to. I remember when I was first separated and that song “you had a bad day…” was always on and it seemed it was written for me 🙂 thanks for your input.