What’s happening in your month of March, Escapees? My title says don’t tell, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want you to tell me everything. For almost four years I’ve been doing the talking…turning my thoughts inside out…attempting to be funny…providing useless valuable tips. I love it.
The past few months have been eventful, disturbing, stressful, joyful and everything in between. You may have noticed when I was getting well into The Martini Diaries-my latest sub blog, it disappeared. I took it down. Don’t ask. Don’t tell. Silence. Denial. No apologies.
Suffice to say the disturbing part of the last few months has to do with an ongoing situation that has escalated. Escapees, if there is one thing I’ve learned from my divorce, it’s to recognize when you’re being treated as a door mat. Know when you’re being fooled and cheated and in that case, know how to stand up for yourself. I will likely share more on that later. For now, this bitch is getting stuff done…
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Don’t ask, don’t tell? I’ve had enough of that.
In the meantime, isn’t life amazing? The changing seasons I see right outside my window never cease to amaze me in their brilliance. The delicate flowers blooming early in spring can take much abuse and still show their beauty. They withstand the cold wind and rain, even thrive because of it. We have so much to look forward to and the Spring season always brings that to the forefront. Hope. Light. Flowers. Sunsets. Hope, did I mention hope?
Shed heavy for light. Trade black for white. Warmth for the cold. Walk in the sun, not the rain.
“She turned to the sunlight
And shook her yellow head,
whispered to her neighbor:
“Winter is dead.”
A.A. Milne, When We Were Very Young
Winter is dead.
When I take my first sip of coffee (I warned you this would include random thoughts) in the morning I remember how simple things can bring pleasure. This harmless drug gets me started and keeps me going. Caffeine. No matter what’s on my mind, coffee helps sort it. It helps me string together words.
Did you know that my Divorce-sary (divorce anniversary) is coming up? It will be 10 years since I left. Believe me in that ten years I have learned some crazy lessons.
So, ya Spring, coffee and appreciating the little things and facing the big challenges make it all worthwhile.
What’s happening for you this week? This month? Are you getting some spring weather yet? What gets you through your day and how do you face your challenges? Do you have a divorce-sary?
I’ll ask, you tell!
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Anne Gonzales
May 11, 2015 at 4:08 amInspirational. I do like the way she scribbles her thoughts…
lynne
April 13, 2015 at 8:46 pmA very positive perspective. i know its not that easy to go through some difficulties in life but you did it. Thanks for sharing. Great Read.
lisa
April 14, 2015 at 9:08 amThanks, Lynne! It’s been a long journey but very rewarding at the same time.
Debby Carroll
March 31, 2015 at 1:12 pmI love the Tina Fey quote you chose for this post. Bitches do get things done. I know because my month of March included publishing my book, which, if you ask any of the family members described within, will tell you it was published by a Bitch! (I believe they’d capitalize the B.) I admire what you’ve done. I know it’s not easy to write about real life but it is often more interesting than fiction. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m subscribing to yours now and expect to enjoy lots more of your fine work.
lisa
March 31, 2015 at 3:03 pmHi Debby, I just discovered your blog and I love the subject! I will check out your book. Soooooo—your family doesn’t approve of your book? Well, the Bitch got it done!Congrats. Thanks for stopping over here to my little blog 🙂 Cheers!
Adrienne
March 25, 2015 at 12:17 pmHi Lisa,
I do believe you have the right attitude my dear. Happy anniversary coming up too. I celebrated 25 years last December, I’ve never looked back. 😉
I will say that spring has arrived here and boy am I happy. I don’t enjoy cold weather so bring on the sun and the warmth and I’m a very happy camper.
This month has been good for me but have had a few family things to deal with. They’ll work themselves out though, they always do.
Enjoy the rest of your week and take care.
~Adrienne
lisa
March 25, 2015 at 2:21 pmHi Adrienne, Oh, lucky you it’s warm there. It’s a damp and cold spring day here. At least we have the pretty blossoms though. I hope all works out well with your family stuff!
Kimberly
March 25, 2015 at 7:17 amBitches get shit done yo.
All of this I love.
It is freezing rain here and this bitch gives not one care. I have my cup of morning coffee and wonderful inspirational words like your post here that are lifting me up this morning. That…little things help you face the big things.
Happy soon to be 10 years of courage, discovery, freedom, all around awesome…xo
lisa
March 25, 2015 at 2:20 pmThey do!! Thank you Kim, for your kind words. It makes me smile to know my words picked up your morning. That’s awesome!
marie
March 23, 2015 at 8:20 amLove my cup of coffee in the morning Lisa. It has the power to peace my mind for a while. Winter is gone, thank God. I can’t wait for more sun.Thinking of you Lisa. And remember that light comes always after darkness.
lisa
March 23, 2015 at 9:11 amHi Marie, yes we appreciate the light much more after coming out of the dark. Thanks for that! Enjoy the sunshine and coffee…I am today, too. 🙂
Charlotte
March 23, 2015 at 6:36 amThank god that winter has finally died. It was lingering much too long here in the Garden State (and there are still remnants of it on my lawn, hmph!). Coffee helps me get through my day, too.I honestly have no idea how I’d get through life without it.
Ten years! That’s quite an anniversary! Maybe it’s time to write a book (or a very long blog post) about what you’ve learned in that time (hint hint) 😉
Much love to you; and hope you have a wonderful week!
lisa
March 23, 2015 at 8:44 amYou’ve had the longest winter this year! Ha! Yes, I wrote that book…now it’s time for the second one 🙂 Have a great week, Charlotte!
Linda Roy (elleroy was here)
March 23, 2015 at 4:21 amIt snowed on the first day of Spring (just to mess with our heads) but this morning it’s sunny and the snow has melted. Thank god Spring is finally here!
lisa
March 23, 2015 at 8:43 amI love it when the snow melts and tiny bits of green grass start to shoot up. Then the daffodils and tulips show their heads…ah, Spring! Lighter coats, longer days…it’s all good.
Liv
March 22, 2015 at 4:47 pmMy divorcesary is in November – lucky seven now.
Won’t ask any questions…but I hope that you’re ok.
lisa
March 22, 2015 at 4:50 pmCongrats on 7 yrs divorced, Liv! Thanks for stopping over 🙂
totally Caroline
March 22, 2015 at 12:26 pmWhat helps me get me though my day? Well its usually food LOL. Chocolate is kind of awesome ;). I also love to sit out in the sun and just feel at peace with a good book, and making new friends has also helped me a lot. SLowly, I’m getting there.
lisa
March 22, 2015 at 4:49 pmHi Caroline, I love chocolate, too especially dark chocolate. It can cure a number of ailments LOL. It’s always refreshing to make a new friend. I’m happy for you that you’re feeling positive!
kimbacaffeinate
March 22, 2015 at 8:33 amI try to enjoy each day as it comes. The little things end up being the ones we remember most.
lisa
March 22, 2015 at 8:49 amYes, Kim and I believe that’s the key to happiness. Thanks for stopping by!
Tamara
March 19, 2015 at 7:35 pmYour bit about spring just about made me leap with happiness. Even though it’s supposed to snow tomorrow, on the first day of spring (so New England), I’m all about hope, light, sunsets, flowers, and most of all – hope.
lisa
March 20, 2015 at 11:51 amThat’s awesome, Tamara! I love the image of you leaping from your chair 🙂 i hope it warms up for you very soon!
Jane Thrive
March 19, 2015 at 4:03 pmOh my goodness, Lisa. I’m sending you lots of hug and love–for whatever you are facing, it sounds like a lot. And i understand the need for privacy and at the same time, being able to embrace the good parts of life, despite the crazy stressors.
10 years!! I can’t believe it! Congratulations to you for your courage in changing your life for the better–filled with more love and kindness and all the things that fulfill you. <3
lisa
March 19, 2015 at 5:07 pmThank you so much Jane! I appreciate your good wishes. I always try to see the good in life. Some days it’s harder than others. 🙂 I’m gettin’ shit done ha! Love Tina’s quote.
Chrys Fey
March 19, 2015 at 12:57 pmI LOVE that Tina Fey quote! I want to give you a high five for getting stuff done and doing what you have to do, Lisa. Don’t ever let anyone stop you! And always stand up for yourself. You’ve got this! 🙂
Florida has hopped over spring and went straight to summer. It’s HOT here! I wish it was cooler so I could enjoy real spring weather.
lisa
March 19, 2015 at 1:28 pmThank you, Chrys! I appreciate your encouragement. <3 Tina Fey. Too much heat can get to you. Hope it cools down a little. 🙂
tracie @ beets+birch
March 18, 2015 at 1:47 ami’m sending you a hug because i know whatever is going on that has escalated is hard personal shit.
i gave up coffee a couple years ago because of a medical condition. that was a hard one! on a rare occasion i indulge on a 1/2 cup and savor every drop.
winter is dead!
lisa
March 18, 2015 at 7:53 pmThank you for the hug, Tracie. I feel your warmth from across the miles and appreciate your support! I would have a tough time giving up caffeine 🙁 I hope you can enjoy tea instead. Hope your days are getting a little longer now with the tilt of the planet.
Balroop Singh
March 17, 2015 at 7:24 pmHi Lisa,
I salute your positive thoughts but my heart cries out for the pain that you snub with your choice of words. You are so right…why should any body treat you like a door mat? And yes, bitches do have a special skill because there is the difference of just one syllable if we replace it with W!
It is good to be happy that ‘winter is dead’…lets not forget winter keeps coming back and life is full of coldness, which makes us appreciate sunshine.
Thank you for these random thoughts Lisa, they make a wonderful reading.
lisa
March 18, 2015 at 7:51 pmHi Balroop, oh yes, bitch with special powers…I love it. Winter is dead, for now. I appreciate winter but I embrace the lighter days and flowers blooming this time of year!
Thanks for your encouragement, Balroop. I always appreciate your support and thoughtful comments.
My Inner Chick
March 17, 2015 at 2:05 pmWhat a gorgeous post, Lisa.
Such positivity flowing from you, dear, even though things seem tough.
We may actually be getting a SPRING in Duluth this year.
Halleluiah!
I love love love this:
“She turned to the sunlight
And shook her yellow head,
whispered to her neighbor:
“Winter is dead.”
Thank you. xxxxxxx hugs.
lisa
March 18, 2015 at 7:49 pmHey Kim Thanks for your kind words! Winter is dead, yes 🙂 Enjoy your Spring weather, Kim! xoxox
Jess @UsedYorkCity
March 17, 2015 at 7:40 amBitches get stuff done, LOVE IT!;-) Enjoy that coffee, and pieces of white, and rays of sunshine! It’s supposed to actually get in the 50’s today in NYC, so I’m going to take full advantage and get outside a bit. It’s been a long, cold winter, indeed.
lisa
March 17, 2015 at 12:14 pmYes, it’s been a cold one for you East coasters. We’ve had a mild one, not to brag or anything 😉 Thanks, Jess I’ll definitely enjoy my coffee. It’s time for a second cup today!