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There is no more stressful time than during a divorce, except for death. Think about that for a minute. Divorce is a grieving process of sorts.
If you are going through it right now, chances are you’ve let your self care routine slide. There are other more important things to worry about than my hair…you hear yourself say…the children come first, you say…and they do however, if you keep putting yourself last you won’t get through this journey intact. When I say self care I am referring to not just your physical maintenance but your emotional care as well. Obviously, these are tied together and if you take care of the physical you automatically improve the mental and vice versa. What can you do to maintain or start your self care routine?
1. Make and keep your appointments-for health, beauty and therapy
2. Get help with the kids-family or a friend to drive them where they need to go attend their game etc. any small assistance will free you up to care for yourself
3. Enjoy your social life even if that means rebuilding it-to avoid feeling isolated
4. Set one personal goal per week-when you accomplish it no matter how big or small, you will feel progress
5. Learn to say ‘No’ without guilt-you will empower yourself to carry on
It’s really this simple; start doing more of what makes you happy and caring less about what everyone else thinks and says about you…
If you can make even one of these tips part of your everyday routine, you will see an improvement in your coping skills. Put yourself first once in a while! If mamma’s happy everyone is happy, right? You will handle the divorce stress with grace. Do you have a secret tip for self care that works for you? Leave a comment, I LOVE ’em!
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Jodi Lobozzo Aman
May 28, 2013 at 7:25 pmI like make one personal goal a week. Sometimes we try to do too much at once and feel like a failure. We like to feel like we are moving but having sucess at the same time. xo
lisa
May 28, 2013 at 7:50 pmYes! And the goal can be really small. Thanks for your input, Jodi. 🙂
My Inner Chick
May 27, 2013 at 5:42 pm–I have been told divorce is much like death…in fact, I have heard some women confess they had wished he would have died instead.
Either way, the loss is great & the mourning is real.
Xx
lisa
May 27, 2013 at 5:54 pmI guess that’s a harsh truth. It is a mourning process in a way and different for everyone of course. Thanks for stopping by Inner Chick!