Truth or Dare? Remember that game. Well, sometimes the dare was way easier than the truth…

“Tell all the truth, but tell it slant–” – Emily Dickinson

Are you tired of being the Good Wife?  I’m sure you’ll agree that when we say our vows we have the best intentions.  Our twenty-something selves actually believe in the fairytale.  We are dressed in a fluffy white dress looking like the icing on a cupcake.  Yet, somehow this didn’t tip us off that it wasn’t realistic.  So, we became

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Are you on social media sites?  How has being involved in social media effected your divorce?  There was no social media when I was first separated.  When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family.  I had been

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People will ask you the weirdest, nosiest most obnoxious questions when you tell them your marriage is over.  As a woman who made the decision to end my marriage, the reaction of bewilderment by some people was beyond frustrating.  Here are the top dumbest divorce questions I got asked;

Demi Moore in The Scarlett Letter

I’ve never felt so ostracized as I did post divorce.  I was the woman wearing the Scarlett Letter, it seemed.  It turns out you don’t need to be an adulterer to be shunned, especially if you are the one to end the marriage.

Can you return without the social stigma?  Is it true you can never go back?  Can you walk the same streets and feel like the same person?

If you have relocated after a difficult divorce, you may return one day and ask yourself these very questions.  I pondered these questions upon my return to a city my children still call home.

We’ve grown up only to learn Cinderella’s carriage was a pumpkin to begin with.  Our foot never fit the glass slipper.  Sleeping Beauty ate a bad apple and maybe we took a bite from the same one.  We’re not in Kansas anymore!  Learning the fairy tale doesn’t always have that happy ending is a hard lesson, even for cynics.

Our favorite; Charlie Brown and his famous tree

One of the most difficult times of the year for divorced and broken families is undoubtedly the Christmas Season.  Especially the first couple of years when it is a time for re-building and transitioning the new family unit. 

After being married with a family, it can be a huge adjustment to live alone or without a partner.  Suddenly, what was once a bustling household can feel empty, and the quiet unsettling.  This can lead to loneliness.