From the archives, one of my favorites;
I can’t think of a better way to spend a rainy day then to pen a love letter. During divorce we stop believing in love, so bring back that feeling by writing a love letter to anyone of your choice, maybe someone you’ve always admired from afar. 
Some say a love letter to yourself
Well, I scrolled through all kinds of inspirational quotes today and couldn’t seem to find one that spoke to us. Then I saw this bird cage with a quote that seemed appropriate. It’s all about freedom…believing in you…dreaming big dreams…knowing today isn’t the end of your story, only the beginning…
Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way. Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt. To reiterate this quote…
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you moms out there! Special wishes to the single moms doing it all alone. Single moms are some of the strongest and most determined women in the world.
How do you define motherhood? I remember when I was young and expecting my first child, I was so excited. The anticipation of caring for a tiny human was almost overwhelming.
The bewildering changes in my body as the pregnancy progressed were nothing compared to the changes to come. But ignorance is bliss. I was sure if I had enough hooded towels for baby, everything would be fine. As my baby grew inside me week by week, I was filled with questions. Who would he or she look like? (Knowing the gender prior to birth was rare in the ‘olden days’) Would they be perfect in every way? What would they become? Sometimes I doubted my ability to be a mother.
Are you tired of being the Good Wife? I’m sure you’ll agree that when we say our vows we have the best intentions. Our twenty-something selves actually believe in the fairytale. We are dressed in a fluffy white dress looking like the icing on a cupcake. Yet, somehow this didn’t tip us off that it wasn’t realistic. So, we became
photo credit JourneyEversPhotography
After divorce we feel defeated in love. We might stop believing in it altogether.
We may be spending what little energy we have left after the battle, providing and being there for our children. We’ve stopped believing in fairy tales but the time will come eventually when we look forward to new relationship(s).
Maybe we’re even looking for that perfect fit we call love. You know what I mean…that someone out there who holds the key to our heart, if only we knew where to find them!
Who holds the key to your heart?
Ryan O’Neal with daughter Tatum circa 1975
Recently, dining out in a casual restaurant I observed a father and daughter sitting at the next table. There was quiet conversation over a beer while they waited for their meal. Shortly after the extra large pizza arrived, the daughter got up from the table with a shake of the head as though the pizza was making her suddenly ill.
The father in a flash was left sitting alone seemingly bewildered.
He explained to the kind waitress the pizza would now be ‘to go’. As she carefully took the pizza from the table I discretely
I can’t think of a better way to spend a rainy day then to pen a love letter. During divorce we stop believing in love, so bring back that feeling by writing a love letter to anyone of your choice, maybe someone you’ve always admired from afar.
Demi Moore in The Scarlett Letter
I’ve never felt so ostracized as I did post divorce. I was the woman wearing the Scarlett Letter, it seemed. It turns out you don’t need to be an adulterer to be shunned, especially if you are the one to end the marriage.
Can you return without the social stigma? Is it true you can never go back? Can you walk the same streets and feel like the same person?
If you have relocated after a difficult divorce, you may return one day and ask yourself these very questions. I pondered these questions upon my return to a city my children still call home.
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