Based on this title, it sounds as though I’m going to tell you exactly when you should leave your marriage.  When to leave a marriage is the number one key word search that brings people to my site.  Yet, I haven’t written one blog post to tell you when to leave your marriage because that would be presumptuous.

Everyone faces unique circumstances.  My book however, touches on this very question in the first chapter. The quiz also prompts some hard thinking and

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Well, I scrolled through all kinds of inspirational quotes today and couldn’t seem to find one that spoke to us.  Then I saw this bird cage with a quote that seemed appropriate.  It’s all about freedom…believing in you…dreaming big dreams…knowing today isn’t the end of your story, only the beginning…

Vashti and Brett Seacat -image source; abc news

I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case.  He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat.   Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce.  I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent.  So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who

Are you tired of being the Good Wife?  I’m sure you’ll agree that when we say our vows we have the best intentions.  Our twenty-something selves actually believe in the fairytale.  We are dressed in a fluffy white dress looking like the icing on a cupcake.  Yet, somehow this didn’t tip us off that it wasn’t realistic.  So, we became

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  Eleanor Roosevelt

This one gives me pause.  How do I let someone make me feel inferior?  Isn’t it what they say or do that makes me feel inferior?  Maybe what Mrs. Roosevelt is referring to is surrounding ourselves with the wrong people.  If someone is repeatedly saying or doing things that make you feel inferior then it is up to you ultimately to remove yourself from that person. Don’t go back for more.  Stop participating in the negativity.

Surround yourself with positive people and those who, while in their company make you feel good about yourself.  Also, a healthy dose of not caring what people think, and being comfortable in your skin will reduce those inferior reactions.

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 How did you stop letting people make you feel inferior?

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Letting go is a big divorce phrase that get thrown around by friends, family, lawyers, mediators and random folks.  Everyone talks about it like it’s putting your shoes on to go out.  It should just

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into somebody else’s plan.  And guess what they have planned for you?  Not much.”  Jim Rohn

Start planning! Start making decisions that are in your own best interests.  Start dreaming about the future, you control it.  Set a new goal and think about how you’ll get there.  You can do it!

Remember:

photo credit: Lynn Knowlton from Design the Life You Want to Live

p.s. check out her site. She’s inspiring, fun and gives tips on designing a great life…ya, right on topic

How did you design your life plan?

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From the archives; I’m re-posting this one because there is so much of this happening.  Many women and some men are dealing with an abusive ex.

Abuse during divorce is more common than we realize.  When we take the step to end our marriage, we extricate ourselves from the marital turmoil only to find ourselves the target of even more abusive behaviors.  The ex can become aggressive, verbally abusive, threatening, and sometimes

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In times of change, we need to go inside ourselves and think. We need a quiet place where we can listen to our heart.

When we arrive at a crossroads, we need to take time for ourselves to be quiet, to unplug. In our lives full of constant communication, we need more than ever to learn

Are you ready for some Legal Speak?  One of the hardest lessons during divorce besides the emotional ones, are the legal ones.  If you’ve never had to hire a lawyer or deal with any legal issues it can be an eye opener.  I was a real newbie in the legal arena.  I had no clue the costs involved, the time involved nor any handle on the legal vocabulary.  Initially, finding