Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way.  Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt.  To reiterate this quote…

Here is a quote from a writer who lived on the outside of the social scene.  An eccentric who’s writings were not respected while alive but has influenced contemporary writers of this and the last century.  Who said this…

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Soren Kierkegaard

I guess another way of saying this is “hindsight is 20/20” or “if only I had known___”.  The point is sometimes we don’t know WHY things happen but in time the answers are revealed to us.  In the meantime…since we have no choice but to live forwards might as well take a leap….

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Letting go is a big divorce phrase that get thrown around by friends, family, lawyers, mediators and random folks.  Everyone talks about it like it’s putting your shoes on to go out.  It should just

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into somebody else’s plan.  And guess what they have planned for you?  Not much.”  Jim Rohn

Start planning! Start making decisions that are in your own best interests.  Start dreaming about the future, you control it.  Set a new goal and think about how you’ll get there.  You can do it!

Remember:

photo credit: Lynn Knowlton from Design the Life You Want to Live

p.s. check out her site. She’s inspiring, fun and gives tips on designing a great life…ya, right on topic

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After divorce we feel defeated in love.  We might stop believing in it altogether.

We may be spending what little energy we have left after the battle, providing and being there for our children.   We’ve stopped believing in fairy tales but the time will come eventually when we look forward to new relationship(s).

Maybe we’re even looking for that perfect fit we call love.  You know what I mean…that someone out there who holds the key to our heart, if only we knew where to find them!

Who holds the key to your heart?

“She turned to the sunlight
And shook her yellow head,

whispered to her neighbor:
“Winter is dead.”

A.A. Milne, When We Were Very Young

Spring is the season of renewal, re-birth, new life. But when you’re going through your very own metamorphosis due to a divorce or other life changing experience, it’s not easy to feel optimistic.  But the blossoms, the new baseball diamonds, the warm sun on your face, the open toe sandals are just begging you to re-consider.  As you shed

I guess I’ll start at the beginning to blast off my new site and blog.  As you would have read in my bio, I made the most difficult decision of my life in 2005.  I made a decision to end my marriage.  It was not a decision I took lightly but when I made it nothing could change it back, that’s how sure I was about it.  Since then I have become stronger, wiser, more tolerant, less judgmental of others, happier, and more fulfilled.  Although I have gone through the stumbling blocks, including anguish, tears, anger and fear I have made it to the other side.  The point is it is not easy to accomplish freedom, but is worth every tear.

I was inspired to write The Great Escape; A Girl’s Guide to Leaving a Marriage partially as a form of therapy,