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Autumn always signals personal reassessment for me. Whether it be in my home, my closets, my work and creativity, or even relationships. It must be that old, back to school feeling. Remember when you would get taken out by your mother for back to school shoes? It was so special and exciting you might even get a new dress or jacket out of the deal.
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One of the most startling changes during my divorce, was my perception of myself. That sounds strange but when I was married I was a good girl. I was a good wife. I understood my role and made the best of my marital life. I played by the rules. I fulfilled expectations as a soccer mom, school volunteer and as a friend and business wife. I wouldn’t call myself a trophy wife as that would suggest I spent many hours primping and looking
Should you buy or rent during divorce? Ideally, we would like to keep the matrimonial home and live there with the children. The last thing we want to do is let go of all of those memories we’ve made there. However, the cost of the household and your ex maintaining his own house is not feasible for many divorcing couples. The reality is most couples end up selling the matrimonial home and each downsizing to accommodate a maxed out budget. But it’s not as bad as it sounds. The question
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Sometimes in life we simply haven’t got the resources for professional advice. Sometimes we have to go it alone. It can be scary but necessary. Self representing in divorce really should be a last resort though. Why? Because Divorce can be a little like a wild river rafting ride and you wouldn’t navigate that alone.
Picture this: The water starts out flat… You have your paddle to contribute to the direction of the raft. You have a leader who is a pro paddler keeping the raft on
“Just get up, put your lipstick on and get out there.” This was the advice given to a friend of mine by her grandmother when she was going through her divorce.
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So many pretty colors to choose from…
Grandma gave this advice for different situations, not just during divorce. She gave herself this advice when her husband passed away. The devastating loss had her feeling hopeless until she told herself “Get off your ass, and put your lipstick on…” In other words, get up and ‘Just Do It’. Did Nike steal this grandmother’s mantra (minus the lipstick)? It seems Liz Taylor would agree. The drink is optional, of course…
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Doin’ the Divorce Happy Dance? Well, that’s what women are doing according to the study from the Kingston University in London. Whereas men although slightly happier at their divorce conclusion, are not as significantly as the women. It turns out men are a little less excited and happy about this whole divorce ‘thing’.
What impressed me in the study is it shows that despite the decrease in income levels and the stress involved in divorce, women reported to be happier then when they were married. This
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There is no more stressful time than during a divorce, except for death. Think about that for a minute. Divorce is a grieving process of sorts.
If you are going through it right now, chances are you’ve let your self care routine slide. There are other more important things to worry about than my hair…you hear yourself say…the children come first, you say…and they do however, if you keep putting yourself last you won’t get through this journey intact.
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into somebody else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Jim Rohn
Start planning! Start making decisions that are in your own best interests. Start dreaming about the future, you control it. Set a new goal and think about how you’ll get there. You can do it!
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p.s. check out her site. She’s inspiring, fun and gives tips on designing a great life…ya, right on topic
How did you design your life plan?
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