“She turned to the sunlight
And shook her yellow head,

whispered to her neighbor:
“Winter is dead.”

A.A. Milne, When We Were Very Young

Spring is the season of renewal, re-birth, new life. But when you’re going through your very own metamorphosis due to a divorce or other life changing experience, it’s not easy to feel optimistic.  But the blossoms, the new baseball diamonds, the warm sun on your face, the open toe sandals are just begging you to re-consider.  As you shed

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Are you on social media sites?  How has being involved in social media effected your divorce?  There was no social media when I was first separated.  When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family.  I had been

Are you a passionate reader like me? Which books are the ones you couldn’t live without?  Books have helped me through just about everything for as long as I can remember.

During childhood when I felt like I wasn’t fitting in, books were my go to comfort.  Harriet The Spy, Charlotte’s Web, Diary of Anne Frank, Are You There God It’s Me Margaret? are

I wish. Photo credit, BrownDressWithWhiteDots

What?  Why? Why would anyone in their right mind travel to Northern Alberta in February? I asked myself the same thing but when I have a place aching in my heart for my babies (who are no longer babies) I have no

photo purchased from Dreamstime

In times of change, we need to go inside ourselves and think. We need a quiet place where we can listen to our heart.

When we arrive at a crossroads, we need to take time for ourselves to be quiet, to unplug. In our lives full of constant communication, we need more than ever to learn

photo credit Pinterest

Well, we’re half way through January and it’s about the time we’re all getting cranky over our resolutions. Maybe we’ve broken them? I avoid making New Year’s resolutions not because I think I’m perfect the way I am, ohhh nooooo.  I simply do not like setting

Happy Halloween, everyone!  From the archives, A Bad Husband Costume for those who missed it the first time around…

I was having my Sunday night telephone conversation with my 17 year old son when I asked what he was going to dress as for Halloween, at school.  He told me he was going as a “Bad Husband”.  Oh, oh.  Was this a latent reaction to his father’s and my divorce?  So I asked him where he got the idea and he said on the Internet.  Pheeew, not my fault after all.  So I asked him what a bad husband looked like.  He said he has lipstick marks all over his collar and a pair of panties in his shirt pocket.  Ah, infidelity.  I chuckled at the ingenious costume idea.  Later though, I got to thinking about some other possible “Bad Husband” costumes.  I came up with a few ideas;

The Golf Addicted Husband
simply don golf attire and carry the clubs

(Okay, so he makes a little money while he’s playing…)

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The Mamma’s Boy Husband
wear a shirt that reads “I’m always right” on the front and on the back it reads “just ask my mom”.

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The Gambling Husband
Just carry around a hand of cards and some poker chips

“I lost again!”

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The Workaholic Husband
Just carry a briefcase, wear a suit and tie and look dishevelled.

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The Ego Husband
attach a cardboard bubble larger than your own head that reads EGO with a teeny tiny cardboard bubble beside it that says ID.
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Well, hopefully I got a few smiles.  The point is, we’re all imperfect.  Some of us are just better at it than others.

Enjoy your Halloween with your ghosts and ghouls, little and big! Wishing all of you single moms that extra burst of energy you will need to get your little ones organized and out on this busy night of celebration!

“Come on Mom!  Let’s go before all the candy is gone!”

Do you have an idea for a “Bad Husband” costume?  Please share with us!

photo credit someecards.com

People will ask you the weirdest, nosiest most obnoxious questions when you tell them your marriage is over.  As a woman who made the decision to end my marriage, the reaction of bewilderment by some people was beyond frustrating.  Here are the top dumbest divorce questions I got asked;

My daughter enjoying the ocean view

I just finished my morning coffee on the beach with the eagles, the loons and the less majestic sea gulls.  The cooler night air has brought with it a hint of fog on the water.  The first sign of the fall season.  It’s been a wonderful two weeks with my kids but now we have to say good bye, something I hate. 

There is always so much negative coverage, comments, judgments and professional nay-saying about divorce.  But what about the positive side of divorce or as I like to call it; the flip side of divorce. There are surprising benefits for both you, and the kids.

Rarely do we stop and examine what can go right during or after divorce. So instead of focusing on the difficulties, expense and strife of divorce, let’s take a few moments to examine the good, the pluses and the long term positive effects of divorce i.e., the BENEFITS.